The Two Kinds of Other Women

My inspiration for The Deceptionlips3 began a few years ago when, while blog surfing one night, I happened upon a blog by a psychic reader talking about the questions most often asked by clients.  One of the questions jumped out at me.  It was, “When will he leave his wife for me?”  Needless to say that post had a lot of comments, and I noticed a trend. It seemed that everyone believed the “other woman” knew he was married, and she’s lying if she says she didn’t know.

I may not have the credentials to be a relationship expert, but as a romance writer, and as someone who’s been single for most of my adult life, I can attest to the fact that if experience is the best teacher, then I must be a relationship expect many times over.  That said, it’s been my life observation that there are actually two kinds of other women out there.  One is the aforementioned mistress, like Rielle Hunter, who knew from the get-go he was married, but chose to get involved with him anyway.  The other is a good woman who’s been deceived.  I’m here to talk about the latter.

Typically these are single women, looking for a meaningful long-term relationship, or marriage, and they meet a seemingly nice man who, for all intents and purposes, appears to be single.  He’s not wearing a wedding ring, he’s not mentioning a wife or girlfriend, and, in some cases, a mutual friend also thought he was single.  Then later on, after she’s become seriously involved, she’ll find out he’s married.  She will feel just as shocked and betrayed as the wife who’s been cheated on, only she gets a double whammy.  People will side with the wife, as she is an injured party, but, just like in that psychic’s blog, they’ll condemn her and say she’s lying when she says she thought he was single.

This can be very devastating.  At best she’s been made to feel like a fool. She’s accused of setting out to intentionally hurt the wife when she didn’t know that there was a wife.  The experience can do untold damage her self-esteem. At worst she’s been so manipulated that she’ll believe he really will leave his wife for her–someday.  Sometimes they do. However, it’s been my observation that most of these guys are, in fact, players.  They want to have their fun, but they have no intention of ever leaving their wives.  After all, the wife is their safety net in case the other woman wants to get serious.

 The Deception is the story of a good woman who meets up with such a player.  He comes into her life at a time when she’s emotionally vulnerable, and he intentionally leads her to believe that he’s single. It doesn’t take long, however, for her to realize something’s just not adding up. Unfortunately for her, by the time she ends the relationship the damage has been done and she’s left to deal with the unintended consequences.  While my story may be fiction, I’m sorry to say that real-life versions of it happen everyday. The point I’m making with this book is to not to judge others too harshly.  Sometimes people simply aren’t who they appear to be.

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