Since When is Being Feminine a Bad Thing?

lips3My goodness gracious me.  I’ve just read a news article expressing all kinds of outrage over another news article, written by a Turkish journalist, lamenting his belief that “Womanhood is Dying,” at Olympics as he apparently expressed his dismay at just how masculine women athletes have apparently become.

Now granted, I didn’t read the original article, but the article I did read made it quite clear that the masses were ready to run the man out of town on a rail, if not lynch him from the highest tree. But what really bothers me isn’t what the Turkish journalist wrote, it’s all the angry backlash against him for writing it in the first place.  Apparently there’s something wrong with being feminine.

I admit I’ve never been in crisis about my gender and I’ve never wanted to be a man.  I like wearing dresses and high heels. I like wearing makeup and having my hair and nails done.  I like it when a man acts like a gentleman and opens the door for me.  So why is this wrong?  Is this the new taboo? Is this a sign of weakness?

Well, all I can say is the female characters in my books are all feminine, but none are weak.  In fact, I’ve gone out of my way to write them as good, feminine role models.  All have achieved professional success, but none are man-haters or ball-busters.  One of my female characters survives a near drowning. Another survives a gunshot wound–while she’s pregnant.  These are not weak women, however they are not wanna be men, nor do they act like men.  They love and respect the men in their lives, yet they do not allow their men to dominate them, nor do they lead their men around by their noses.  All I can say is that like me, they are not in crisis over their genders.

Women are resilient.  After all, we’re the ones who have the babies.  It’s too bad everyone else has their undies in a knot over one journalist expressing his opinion.  But as I said, what really bothers me is that deep down, there is now, apparently, something wrong with wanting to be feminine, and I resent a society that wants to force me to become a man.  I’m a woman. I’m damn proud of being a woman, and I will continue to create strong, feminine characters in my novels.

My thought for the day.