One of the Inspirations for THE DECEPTION

Kindle CoverIt always fascinates me where ideas for my stories can come from.  They can come from virtually anywhere. The genesis for The Deception actually occurred back in 2006, when I was blog surfing one night and I happened upon a psychic’s blog.  She worked on one of those on-line psychic websites, and her post was about the questions she was most often asked by her callers.  One of the questions was, “When will he leave his wife for me?”

Needless to say, her post had a lot of comments, and I seem to recall participating in the discussion as well.  It was quite a debate about adultery and morality, and many of the comments were to the effect of the other woman always knowing that he’s married, and she’s lying if she says she didn’t know.

Well, it’s not necessarily so.  I’ve met plenty of women who’ve gotten involved with married men, and not all of them knew he was married.  I also once knew a man who discovered the woman he was dating was married too.  None were proud of the experience. It’s the kind of thing that can leave a person doubting themselves and no longer able to trust others.

I wrote The Deception as a story of what can happen when a good, honest woman meets a man who has not only presented himself to her as single and available, he was introduced to her by her closest friend, who also believed he was single and available.  The story may be fiction, but it’s inspired by circumstances that, sadly, happen all too often in the real world.

The point I’m making with this story is that we must be careful about judging others when we don’t have all the facts.  Another is that this can, potentially, happen to anyone, from any walk of life, regardless of their personal morality, because people can and do lie.  Hence my title, The Deception.

Happy reading.

MM

The Two Kinds of Other Women

My inspiration for The Deceptionlips3 began a few years ago when, while blog surfing one night, I happened upon a blog by a psychic reader talking about the questions most often asked by clients.  One of the questions jumped out at me.  It was, “When will he leave his wife for me?”  Needless to say that post had a lot of comments, and I noticed a trend. It seemed that everyone believed the “other woman” knew he was married, and she’s lying if she says she didn’t know.

I may not have the credentials to be a relationship expert, but as a romance writer, and as someone who’s been single for most of my adult life, I can attest to the fact that if experience is the best teacher, then I must be a relationship expect many times over.  That said, it’s been my life observation that there are actually two kinds of other women out there.  One is the aforementioned mistress, like Rielle Hunter, who knew from the get-go he was married, but chose to get involved with him anyway.  The other is a good woman who’s been deceived.  I’m here to talk about the latter.

Typically these are single women, looking for a meaningful long-term relationship, or marriage, and they meet a seemingly nice man who, for all intents and purposes, appears to be single.  He’s not wearing a wedding ring, he’s not mentioning a wife or girlfriend, and, in some cases, a mutual friend also thought he was single.  Then later on, after she’s become seriously involved, she’ll find out he’s married.  She will feel just as shocked and betrayed as the wife who’s been cheated on, only she gets a double whammy.  People will side with the wife, as she is an injured party, but, just like in that psychic’s blog, they’ll condemn her and say she’s lying when she says she thought he was single.

This can be very devastating.  At best she’s been made to feel like a fool. She’s accused of setting out to intentionally hurt the wife when she didn’t know that there was a wife.  The experience can do untold damage her self-esteem. At worst she’s been so manipulated that she’ll believe he really will leave his wife for her–someday.  Sometimes they do. However, it’s been my observation that most of these guys are, in fact, players.  They want to have their fun, but they have no intention of ever leaving their wives.  After all, the wife is their safety net in case the other woman wants to get serious.

 The Deception is the story of a good woman who meets up with such a player.  He comes into her life at a time when she’s emotionally vulnerable, and he intentionally leads her to believe that he’s single. It doesn’t take long, however, for her to realize something’s just not adding up. Unfortunately for her, by the time she ends the relationship the damage has been done and she’s left to deal with the unintended consequences.  While my story may be fiction, I’m sorry to say that real-life versions of it happen everyday. The point I’m making with this book is to not to judge others too harshly.  Sometimes people simply aren’t who they appear to be.

MM

Blame It On Too Many Soap Operas and My Misspent Youth

TV SetSometimes people ask me what motivated me to become an author, or why I write contemporary romance. Well, blame it on my misspent youth, because for many, many years, I was a soap opera junkie. It started when I was in about the sixth grade, and it lasted through high school and college, and into adulthood. I can even blame it on my mother too. Instead of telling me to go do something more productive with my time, she got me started on her soaps.

I used to schedule my college classes around my soaps. (Yes, there actually was a time when we didn’t have the Internet, the Soap Opera Network, or iTunes.) Having my first VCR was a truly liberating experience. I could have a life since I could now tape my soaps and watch them at my convenience, and I taped my favorite soap everyday for a good twenty years.

So, what was it about soap operas that was so compelling?  According to Mrs. Fields, my high school drama teacher, soap operas were real life, exaggerated. Back in the day when soap operas relied on classic plot lines, such as extra-marital affairs, illegitimate children, and long-lost family members, viewers could make a connection because they were believable stories.

The other thing that made the soaps so compelling was, I believe, the characters. I never watched All My Children, but I certainly know who Erica Kane was. Another unforgettable soap character, and one of my all-time favorites, was Dr. Marlena Evans on Days of our Lives. Having two great actresses, Susan Lucci and Deidre Hall, play those parts certainly helped, but behind those two talented actresses were talented writers who helped transform these fictitious characters into believable, three-dimensional people.

So, looking back, that was my inspiration. I too strive to create believable, three-dimensional characters–Ian Palmer, Gillian Matthews, Carrie Daniels and Alex Montoya. I also work hard to create believable stories, with plot lines similar to soap operas. My stories are about characters who get involved with the wrong people, long-lost lovers who are reunited, and people who are betrayed by the ones they trust the most. In other words, real life, somewhat exaggerated.

MM